Kind Is Beautiful

Elder abuse and neglect

Elder abuse and neglect—in forms including financial, chemical/pharmaceutical, sexual, and emotional/psychological—is experienced regularly by Canadian seniors and appears to have significantly increased during COVID-19.

Isolation

Lack of social inclusion has also been exacerbated, as groups that older adults used to participate in or at-home care were suspended due to the pandemic. Many volunteering opportunities for seniors have also been stopped or postponed because of COVID.

“[A]ll of a sudden, their need and purpose for getting up in the morning is somewhat stalled,” says Heather Thompson, director of Age-Friendly Initiatives, Community Development Halton, Ontario, and a member of the Older Adult Isolation Action Table, which looks to increase connectedness for older adults in Halton who are at risk of social isolation.

She adds that, initially, many seniors she’s heard from felt confused—they questioned why they had to stay at home when they’re healthy and can help.

Ageism

A type of discrimination, ageism is another issue seniors are encountering. Throughout the pandemic, older adults have likely come across the sentiment that older people are going to die anyway. Thompson says seniors might internalize the idea they’re not as valuable once they’re over 65 or 70. In fact, Thompson often hears sentiments such as “I feel invisible, like my opinion doesn’t count,” “I’m not valued,” or “I’m not worthy of being loved” from older adults.

Grief

Grieving has been another challenge for seniors. At their stage in life, they may be losing many of their friends. Funeral services now may be limited to a few participants or are held on Zoom, which may not allow for adequate processing or grieving, says Thompson.

Technology challenges

And, according to Thompson, older adults may also struggle with technology or cell phones, or find them unaffordable. They may be afraid to attend health check-ups, be hesitant to take public forms of transportation, or suffer from lack of touch, she adds.

Small acts of kindness

Volunteer organizations across the country have been addressing these needs. They’re proving that small acts of kindness can make a big difference in our seniors’ lives.

One such organization is ElderDog, a nationwide organization operating in 26 communities across Canada. Elderdog’s 2,000 plus volunteers help seniors with dog care duties, including dog walking, caring for dogs while their owners undergo surgery, and delivering necessities such as dog food and medication.

The organization also arranges for dog adoptions when older adults can no longer care for them. In cases such as these, they rehome the dog, but keep their companion as connected as they would like to be with their dog.

“We very much operate out of respect and dignity and comfort in all that we do. All of our volunteers across the country live by that when they’re representing ElderDog; it’s really a beautiful thing,” says Ardra Cole, founder and executive director of ElderDog.

Kira Sufalko, leader of the ElderDog Pawd on the Sunshine Coast in BC, has been operating her Pawd for 14 months, which currently has 44 volunteers. She says volunteers find out about ElderDog mainly through word-of-mouth, and sometimes through marketing at local shops and seniors’ centres.

With the onset of COVID, Sufalko says, ElderDog has also functioned as a wellness check, because dogwalkers drop by a senior’s house on a regular basis to walk their dog. She says that volunteers are put in a place where people are trusting them with their most beloved pets, which can create a friendship between the client and senior. And sometimes, clients later become volunteers.

“When you volunteer with ElderDog, you almost become part of what we call the ElderDog family. It’s a family that’s kind, caring, supportive, and very compassionate and community based.”

Diana Lynn is a senior who uses ElderDog’s services. She owns two English springer spaniels, Jozee and Buca, who have been with her for 14 and 11 years, respectively. During her latest hip surgery, ElderDog provided a foster home for both of her dogs, so Lynn was able to focus on rest and recovery. And, while Lynn can now match pace with Jozee, she needs someone else to walk Buca, so a volunteer from ElderDog comes by every day for his walk.

Lynn finds it comforting to know that ElderDog will be there when she can’t be.

“I’m confident that Kira [leader] would choose a home where they could go together, where they would be happy and their needs would be met,” says Lynn. “I’m alone here, as far as family goes. I feel like I have a new family, a new community to be involved with. [The volunteers are] wonderful people.”