depression

Riya · Guest

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I cant sleep. I have no one to talk to. My children are suffering for my depression.

monica · Guest

Hi Riya,

I'm one to listen if you want to talk about your depression. I too
am suffering with it also. I've been suffering with depression
off and on for 21years now. I know how it affects the family and
friends in our lives. It's hard on everyone. But I'm coping and I
will continue reading and researching and living in present moment. I try to keep busy with interesting things and try to stay
in a positive mind set. I find instrumental music like celtic and classical sounds without lyrics helps soothe my mind when I'm
feeling an overwhelming of sadness or anger stirring inside. I try
also to stay away from negative people (the ones who put you down and insult your whole being). I find news, stressful situations and sad movies can set my depression off, so I try to walk away from those situations, Until I know I can handle them at another time in my life. When I've let my depression get to me and I'm in a very angry or sad state...I try to journal it all out on paper. Writing every feeling and emotion all out on paper. It really helps calm me down were then I reach out to my husband or Doctor or whomever is there to talk too. I also take a scented bath of lavender and have solitude nature sounds in the background to help calm my upsets. There is more things I do but too much to write it all down. But I hope some of this may help. = )

If you want to talk with me more about our state, I'm here.

Take Care Riya, there is hope for us all.

Terryann · Guest

Hello

The perspective we have on depression is faulty not depression itself. Depression, especially for women (not exclusively), is a time when we get to go into the feminine by going down into the rabbit hole to explore what we have never dared to explore before.

During my years as a facilitator in therapy: those who dealt with their depression were the ones who began to shift their perspective on depression. Once they found that depression was a way to heal the parts of ourselves, and as a result heal those around them, they were able to fully go into depression and explore it rather than avoiding what the experience is trying to show us about ourselves.

We cope as a form of resignation that nothing will change in our live including depression. How can that be when our cells are changing daily. We have whole new livers in about a year. Yet we think depression stays with us. It seems it stays because it is calling out to us. It is a deep part of us seeking our love and compassion not coping or trying to stop the whole experience.

When you think of a baby crying out we run to see if anything is the matter. We don't say just learn to cope with whatever is wrong. But you do this to yourself as though you don't have something that needs your attention.

I have been depressed on and off for much of my life. Most of the time I did not even realize it was depression. I always saw it as a down time for me, my body, and my life. I would sit around for months sometimes years doing nothing but crying or wanting to die. The more I wanted to die I would come to to realization it was not that I wanted to die but everything I thought or believed about myself and life is what I wanted to die. What would follow was, like a phoenix from the ashes, I would die to my old self and be reborn. And yes it would happen again and again.
And I am sure that it will continue to occur.

Reaching these depths of desperation seems to me how hard headed we are when it comes to truly listening to ourselves. The deeper the despair the more coped we are with the way things are and believe that nothing will change. The very premise itself being anti-life. Life changes is the only truth we know.

In myths we see the hero or heroine travelling into hades to come to their realizations. Mythology holds for us all the we live through on a daily basis. The archetypal pattern of traveling into hades and coming back to the overworld renewed is imagery for depression. We travel into the depths of depression to find the gold within the shadow (carl Jung).

If you begin to see depression as a voyage and listen to what it has to tell you it is just the beginning of seeing the depths of campassion you can have for yourself and see how beautiful you truly are- warts and all.

May you have a fulfilling journey
I will be there with you
Terryann